ABOUT YOU: THE ADULT
You know you’re dealing with anxiety, and you don’t know what to do.
You are afraid that anxiety might be rooted in some old trauma - maybe from childhood, recently, or anywhere in between.
Anxiety and stress are impacting your relationships and your work life.
You’re afraid you are - or you might - lose control.
You’re feeling trapped by your past and don’t know how to move on.
You’re paralyzed by fears about the future.
THE SECRET AGENT
You’re climbing the ladder of success in your life, maybe even at one of Seattle’s booming tech companies, but you have this looming fear that everyone will soon find out you’re an imposter! They’ll be convinced you’re inadequate and under-qualified. Even though you know you got a stellar education and know as much as the guy next to you, you can’t shake the feeling that at any minute you’ll be replaced by someone wayyy more competent than you. Sound familiar? Hello, Imposter Syndrome! I bet you’re ready to kick that nasty little voice to the curb and start focusing on the facts: that you are qualified, and heck - you probably deserve to get paid more ;) You’re in the right place!
Things in life are actually going pretty well for you. Of course you have some daily stressors, but overall you feel you have a good handle on it. Maybe you even went to therapy in the past. You have a history of anxiety, and you’re starting to realize that some of the old tools you used to use are getting a little stale. The anxiety about getting anxiety kicks in. And you know if your anxiety gets too intense, you start to suffer in other areas of your life. You really want to stay ahead of your anxiety and be prepared to deal with it before it gets too big. You start to realize it’s time to get to the root of the anxiety instead of just slapping some bandaids on it. You’re ready to strategize before the anxiety gets bad and do work! Welcome!
You have overcome A LOT. Maybe you had some really traumatic stuff happen to you in childhood. Maybe you survived a trauma just recently. Either way, you’re still here - and that is amazing. You’ve worked pretty hard to put some of these painful memories aside so you can move forward. In fact, avoiding tough stuff has become a skill you could probably put on your resume! But now things are bubbling to the surface and you’re starting to feel overwhelmed and anxious. It’s impacting your relationships and your work life. You’re feeling worried about your ability to handle it all alone. You have this hunch that you really need to deal with the things you’ve worked so hard to avoid. You’re nervous, but brave. Let’s chat.
You’ve taken care of yourself for a long time. You have a hard time letting other people in for fear that they may not understand. Because of this, you’ve pushed your own emotions to the side. Now you’re starting to experience some strange feelings - you find yourself getting panicky or anxious, and that’s a new sensation for you. Sometimes it even reminds you of times in your past when you felt this way, but managed to ignore it. You’re not sure if you have anxiety, and even the thought of saying out loud that freaks you out. You’re also scared of the thought that there may be something deeper at the root of this. So much feels unsettled, and you’re unsure where to start. Well, you’re not alone and therapy is a great place to start.
Sometimes we just need some extra support.
We carry so much with us - pain, joy, trauma, anxiety, and a wealth of wisdom and memories. Feeling powerless in your own is a terrifying feeling! I want to work with you to regain power in your own life. Do you feel like anxiety is in the driver seat, and you’re stuck in the back? Together we can figure out ways to get you back in that passenger seat. I believe the human spirit is resilient and wildly capable of accomplishing great things. We can easily lose sight of our own superpowers and skills. My hope in therapy with adults is to rediscover and strengthen your own unique approaches to tackling problems.
I have two ways that I typically work with adults.
Talk Therapy - This is the classic route - probably what you’ve seen on television or maybe experienced in your own life. That doesn’t mean it’s outdated, rather it points to a timeless traditional approach to healing. Together we can talk through what you’re experiencing, and we will get to the root of where it is coming from. Many people like to use therapy to reducing anxiety, finding tools to ease panic, increasing confidence, and confront tough things from the past. Therapy is 100% confidential, and you can rest-assured that it is a safe space to share your deepest secrets and wildest dreams. This is a great place to start if you’re new to therapy and looking to get the hang of it.
EMDR Therapy - So you read the talk therapy part and thought, ‘how will that even help?!’ I’m just going to suddenly feel better by talking about what I’m thinking? Well… actually… yes. BUT there is a different kind of therapy. Here is what you need to know about EMDR therapy - it is a fast and effective way to get over distressing memories, current stressors, and worries about the future. Click here to check out my page about EMDR to learn a little more about how it looks. I’ll give you a teaser, it’s quite different than talk therapy!
Seasonal Affective Disorder
I offer individual therapy to adults facing all types of problems - anxiety, depression, grief, stress, and more. I have specializations in several areas including trauma, anxiety, identity exploration, cultural issues, and LGBTQ+ issues. My goal when working with you is to make you feel comfortable and accepted - that is where we must start. From there, we can begin working on your goals together. My approach is collaborative and emphasizes equality between myself as the therapist and you as the client.
Tradition “talk” therapy is a great way to get started. We will spend some time getting to know each other and discovering the direction that will be most beneficial. Because I do not believe in a “one-size-fits-all” approach to therapy, spending a little time learning about each other is very important to me. This helps me understand how to best serve you and help you reach your goals. After spending a few sessions doing this, we can decide if you’d like to continue with talk therapy or if you would like to try EMDR therapy. Talk therapy is an excellent option if you are looking for ongoing support and have the ability to come in regularly for long-term therapy.
EMDR therapy (Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an perfect option if you are looking for shorter term therapy. To learn more about EMDR therapy, click here. Depending on what your goals are, EMDR therapy can take as little as six weeks. If you’d like to schedule a free consultation to discuss EMDR therapy as an option, click here. I can give you an estimate of how long EMDR therapy might take for you. Please keep in mind that it is a collaborative process and may not always be fast. We may discover new things along the way that you would like to work on, which would add to your time in therapy. In our consultation, I can only estimate the length of time you would need to come in for - it is not a guarantee.